Although I've never been attracted to younger men, I do find that I'm getting approached by them a lot more lately. The problem is, I can't bring myself to go out with one because of my long-held belief that I'm going to meet and fall in love with an Ed Bradley look alike. I've always preferred older--much older--men. But seeing my 40-something relatives take those little blue pills got me rethinking my strategy. Maybe dating a younger man isn't such a bad thing after all.
This captivation with older men is not new. During my early teen years, it was Max Robinson. Maybe I was into afros back then. I'm not sure, because that's certainly not the case now. And most recently it was Ed Bradley. (I'm noticing a journalist pattern forming here.) He was the man of my dreams: gray hair, earring (and I usually don't like men with earrings), confidence. He definitely epitomized sexy to me.
Aside from the attraction to older men, one of the reasons why I can count on one hand the number of younger men I've dated is because we were usually in such different places in our lives emotionally and economically. I had four children by the time I was 21, and separated from my husband when my youngest was only six months. So while I worked feverishly to to build a life for my children as a single mom, I didn't have men my age kicking down my door. And since I wasn't going to settle for a thug or dope feine just because I was a young mother with a lot of kids, I decided to focus on self-development instead of relationships. And as I developed as a woman and mother, and repositioned myself financially and emotionally, I found that I had more in common with older men who already had kids and were more established in their careers.
Max Robinson,
my teenage crush
Ed Bradley was the man
of my dreams.
It's a new day for me. And with all the attention I'm getting from younger men, I'm now asking what is it about 40-year-old women that younger men find so attractive? And why am I now finding them equally attractive?
Halle Berry with beau,
Gabriel Aubrey, who is
almost 10 years her junior
Terry McMillan and the
man she got her groove
back with, Jonathan
Plummer, have a 23-year
age difference
Demi Moore is 16 years
older than her husband,
Ashton Kutcher
Talk to me, what would I have in common with a younger man?
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